As the world changes and women evolve I’ve noticed the rise of the feminist. These aren’t the same feminist that fought for equal rights and for women to have a choice in whether to stay at home or work. No, the feminist of today is fighting for sexual liberation, but is it doing more harm than good?
I look at celebrities like Rihanna & Beyonce, some huge female names in the industry and wonder what are they really promoting? Beyonce, once known for her work in destiny’s child and her solo career writing hit songs like ‘Put ring on it’ and ‘Who run the world (girls)’ both songs that are fairly clean, aren’t heavily sexual. Each both hits. She was the last singer I considered that actually had class and didn’t need sex to sell out an arena. Yet her latest song ‘Partition’ is all about sex, even ‘Drunk in Love’ is heavy on the party lifestyle and having sex. Why? I get that sex sells, but she was selling records before, why fix what isn’t broke? For some reason she went off track, not implying that she a saint before, but this Beyonce is all sex no brains. The only issue I really have with her is the fact that she claims to be a “feminist” demanding we respect women but disrespects herself by shedding her clothes.
Rihanna is not any better. The good girl gone bad has gotten even worse. Have you seen her latest shoot? She’s literally naked. Although she’s never claimed to be a feminist or a role model, she just adds to the thought so many women have in their minds now “show some skin, make millions ” is that our future?
We have taken ‘think like a man’ completely out of context and started behaving like horny school boys. No longer do we require a date, or a relationship to grant access to our bodies, we proudly display them without a care letting anyone in yet we demand respect. Why care about something you didn’t have to work for? Something you got just for showing up? No one cares about the community swimming pool anyone can just jump in. We act like this and claim its sexual liberation, but is it really? Do you feel liberated sleeping with a guy who you only know by his nickname? The guy who told all his friends that he slept with you in a weeks time? Sexual liberation isn’t the golden ticket to behave like a whore. Its means you’re free to feel sexy and be sexy in whatever you wear. No one is asking you to be a nun and dress in robes, but if you want people to respect you and take you seriously as a woman you can’t go out the house looking like a piece of meat that you give to the dog.
Pull your dress down if you want people to notice you, not your body. Don’t get drunk in the club or make a twerk video, you’re setting us back. It’s nobody else’s job but ours to improve how women are treated and represented. If we continue promoting these overly sexual acts we just become community swimming pools, dirty and poorly kept. Close your legs ladies, and open your minds. You’re much more than just a pretty face. Take away all the make up and the designer bags and the skin tight clothes, see what you have to offer, its a lot. You can have lots of sex, but make sure its with a guy who actually cares about you. Put your mind not your body out there for the world to see and I guarantee you better people will come into your life. Sexy is the woman who has beauty and brains not the girl who is half naked in the corner. Take care of yourself ladies.