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Why Girls Love Dem’ Bad Boys

06 Sunday Oct 2013

Posted by KimberlyLove in Good Girls, Love, My experience, My Life, questions, Relationships, why girls like bad boys

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It’s the age old question that has plegged men for ages. What is it that makes the “bad boy” image so attractive? Many claim that it’s because women like to be treated badly and ignored. Why would you choose some guy who is going to cheat on you, never treat you right, and put you in situations that are worth more than a slight eyebrow raise. Most men can fathom why a girl will want that well news flash we don’t it’s a completely different reason why girls like “bad boys” and no it doesn’t have to do with the way they treat us, technically.

First let’s clarify the difference between good boys and bad boys. Good boys are most commonly know for being love struck wholesome boys that typically don’t do anything to far out of the normal. Also they usually come from traditional homes with your average values. This is not a bad thing, it’s actually quite good, good boys are usually on fast track to a typical life. A bad boy, however, is most likely the opposite. Typically he wants to do something more on the creative side, he’s also has more open minded views on things and he’s a thrill seeker. But the main thing we like is that he can take control of a situation, and we know can basically keep us entertained.

While yes a “good” boy can have these tendencies  and those are usually not the ones complaining that all the girls like bad boys. While of course this doesn’t apply to every single girl, like for example the good girls whose main goals are to have a family and a good career they would of course love a good boy, or a bad one. Typically though I will say the badder the boy the shorter the relationship, no one wants to deal with someone whose controlling, and can’t seem to get their lives together or can’t stay out of trouble. So good news to all the good boys out there, the good guy does always get the girl in the end.  

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Maybe it’s you

21 Thursday Mar 2013

Posted by KimberlyLove in Drama, Friends, Help, Love, Meditation, Relationships, Sad, Self Recovery, Spring

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Spring is the time of growth. It’s the time to reflect and reevaluate your current situation in life.With the flowers blooming it inspires you to change, explore, and become more peaceful. Take for instance my dear friend Angela, once again she was having her bi-monthly break up with her boy-toy boyfriend Stephan.

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“And then he says ‘you need to lighten up you’re so freaking pessimistic!’ What does that even mean?” She said taking an angry bite of her salad.

“Well you can be a little debbie downer sometimes” I said sipping my wine. “Every time something bad happens you do have a little emotional over load”

“That is true” Pamela chimes. ” Remember when you tried on that pair of J brand pants over at Saks and couldn’t fit them? You hardly ate for a week, and complained that whole time. I mean come on, they were a skinny size 0. Who wears that?”

“You guys really think I’m that depressed?” Angela pouted while looking disgustingly at her salad.

“I wouldn’t say you’re ‘depressed’,you just have a dark way of thinking. Maybe it’s because all you watch are those murder documentaries, you have to be pretty dark to watch them for hours straight.” I said.

Angela sat back in her chairs arms folding with a frowned brow. “Really, now?”

“It’s no biggy, just think positive. Try to go to your happy place more often” Pamela suggested. “Or just get a big bottle of wine, some Ben and Jerry’s and watch some black and white films. Where’s there’s always a happy ending.“

“Maybe..” Angela responses.

“Yeah but then you’ll be a fat drunk.” I joked.

Angela musters up a smile, and manages to stay through lunch and even chime in to a couple of conversations. I knew what we had said got to her, it was kind of a wake up call that she wasn’t hiding her pain as well as she thought she was.

Later that night I was up watching some Netflix and getting cozy for my night in. As soon as a slipped in to my Victoria’s secret PINK shorts my phone went off. It was Angela.

“Hello?”

“Do I really seem that dark” She asks.

” No, not at first glance. But we’ve known you for a while so we know, you’re a positive person. You just don’t think to highly of yourself.” I explained.

She lets out a giant sigh. ” I guess, I just don’t see it”

” Sweety it’s almost midnight, and your calling stressed about something that happened around one in the afternoon. You just hold on to things at let them get to you.”

“Maybe..”

“Just let go, try meditation to get your mind in a more relaxed peaceful place.”

“Does that work?”

“It works for me whenever things get a little over whelming. I meditate, take a long shower, and head to bed with a good book.”

“hhmmm”

“The key to this whole process is to make sure you let out the negative energy and stay away from situations that are to stressful”

“Yeah maybe I’ll try that.”

“Just take it one day at a time, you’ll get it”

“Yeah”

As we hung up I felt as if it really was a wake up call for her, she’s been fighting demons for a while. But just like the blossoming trees in spring, change takes time and patience. It’s not an overnight process, but with constant work anyone can bloom.

Love,
Kimberly

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Losing You

02 Tuesday Oct 2012

Posted by KimberlyLove in Fashion, Hope, Losing You, Love, new music, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Solange, Solange Knowles, South Africa, Vintage

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It takes a village to raise a baby but how many people does it take to make a relationship work? It says it two but really it takes a little more. It takes your friends to realize that um hey you can’t do the same things you did in while you weren’t in a relationship, it takes all your ex boo’s to realize that they can’t talk to you the same why they used to an it also takes the strangers not to come at you wrong. If all these elements aren’t working together than it can lead to a very drama filled relationship. VERY. At the end of the day it takes the two people that actually want the relationship to work to work through all the ex’s, the single friends, and the random strangers to make it work. It’ll either make it stronger or make it worse, at the end of the day if the two people realize that they really want to make it work than it’ll work. If they really want it, it’ll work, if they don’t care than it won’t. At the end of it all, it’s really what you’re willing to deal with, and that’s pretty much it. It takes a village to make a relationship work.

Baby Come Back: Kimberly Love’s 5 Step Program On Dealing With An EX

30 Monday Jul 2012

Posted by KimberlyLove in Deal With a Break up, Drama, Fighting, how to end a relationship, Love, Past Relationships, Relationships, Rihanna

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Besides the obvious reasons why you shouldn’t go back to an ex I’m not going to bore you with the murky details and the over used quotes (i.e. You’re an EX because you’re an EXample of what I don’t want) Rah rah rah for girl power but lets get real, they were exactly what you wanted they just fucked up. So here are 5 easy ways to deal with and EX that tries to come back in to your life.

1. You can be friends

You can be civilized with an EX there’s no reason to show hate you could even hang out if you’re near. No late night phone calls or any thing intimate, that may raise other emotions and if you’re so very damn sure you don’t want to be with them do it sparingly. Make it clear that you’re just friends don’t even lead or hint at anything else. Now I will be honest you can’t be best friends that’s just not possible but be mature about it at least respect the man (or woman). If they IM you or text you ‘Hey What’s Up’ Say hi back telling you’re doing fine and keep it moving. Don’t spread the hate.

2.  Cut them off

If you don’t want to be friends or anything cut them off. Remove them as a friend on Facebook and unfollow them on twitter. Don’t look at their status updates don’t care about their recent girlfriends or anything let them be. You shouldn’t even care about what they’re up to.

3. Remember why you broke up

If an EX comes back in to your life and you do create a relationship with them please REMEMBER the reason why the relationship broke up. Don’t make excuses don’t surgar coat it remember it in black and white, if need be talk to your friend about it your very blunt evil friend that’s going to slap some serious sense in to you friend. If you broke up over petty reasons ( i.e. he didn’t call you last Friday when he said he would because he went to sleep but you didn’t believe him) then you have some personal issues. If you broke up over something serious (i.e. He lied, or cheated) then you need to remember it, no matter what a relationship need trust there’s no reason to even bother trying to because that’s going to bring up other reasons.

5. Keep your Friends out of it.

Really do you don’t need several different voices in your head telling you what to do. If you think you can have a respectable relationship with an EX lover then do it. You don’t need a bunch of angry females or “reminders” of what happened. Don’t live in the past look to the future and make sure you follow step 3 and accept it.

It’s all how you look at it, me personally I don’t have a negative relationship with any of my EX’s we’re all gravy smooth like butter. Some of them do however want to get back and sometimes I do to but I’ve been there done that and the same problem happened or they did the same thing again. After awhile you get tired of looking stupid and you realize it just isn’t working and you gotta roll with the punches. And if you ever feel weak, look at #3.. REMEMBER WHY YOU BROKE UP!!!

Until Next Time….

Last Friday Night (Do It All Again)

29 Sunday Jul 2012

Posted by KimberlyLove in Celebrity Fashion, Fashion, Forever 21, Kardashian Kollection, Kimberly Love, Love, Night Out, Rihanna

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 It finally happened! I’ve been trying for weeks to wear this Kardashian Kollection dress that I bought a little over a month ago and Friday night I wore it out to Inferno! I absolutely love this dress it hugs everything just right and leaves just a little to the imagination. The only bad thing is that I lotioned up my feet before I left on the bottom and that can make it pretty hard to walk in, not to mention I downed a bottle of vodka before I left so I was stumbling when I got in the club. I wish I had more pictures for you all not just the ones before we got in but they haven’t posted any of them yet. So I guess they’ll be a PART DOS to this post I’ll defiantly post them! Besides from the all phone calls from random numbers and what my friends had told me it was quite a night to remember. All I can remember is going in VIP drinking spilling the drink all over my chest and having some chica lick it off I’m just as excited to see them as you are….

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Gaga is so Retro With Taylor

25 Wednesday Jul 2012

Posted by KimberlyLove in apartment, Fashion, Lady Gaga, Lazy Chic, Love, Retro, Taylor kinney, Twit Pic, twitter

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I love how retro this  photo looks. This is Gaga and her beau Taylor looking like they’re straight out of the 70’s. I don’t know if its just Gaga though because of the Beehive and the make up none the less she’s gorge.

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Hopeless Romantic Females

16 Monday Jan 2012

Posted by KimberlyLove in Love, Youtube

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It’s BOO SEASON!!!

23 Sunday Oct 2011

Posted by KimberlyLove in hooking up, Love, Relationships

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Grudge le’chic

19 Monday Sep 2011

Posted by KimberlyLove in Fall 2011, Fashion, Forever21, Grudge, Love, my style, My Trends, OOTD

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Hello autumn! You were not missed, except for your fashion. Sorry I don’t like it cold I’m a summer girl! But as life it goes on and we must adapt and that what I did with this little ensemble I have on. Following my new look this look falls securely in with the grunge look only amplified with the makeup. (Note that I am not this is my interpretation of grunge not the actually meaning. ) I seriously loved this look though it’s a casual look and a big dosage of F’k you personality! If only I was in a larger city..:)

My Trends: Ms Secretary

16 Friday Sep 2011

Posted by KimberlyLove in Fashion, Fun, Grunge, Love, my style, My Trends, New Look, OOTD, Personal, Purple Lips, style, Vintage

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This Fall I decided to bring back OOTD (outfit of the day) sorry for the wait for those who have been requesting them. All though they won’t be daily they will be more frequent. Today I’m showing my fall trend the secretary complete with pencil mini and peep hole. I’m really trying to reinvent my look less boho-y and more vintage grunge mix, today is clearly an (attempt) vintage look. I try to sex-classy it up from time to time but it will get a little more personal on here but not by much I’ll keep you informed as much as I can thanks for all the love and support!

It’s time to go

08 Monday Aug 2011

Posted by KimberlyLove in ending, Fashion, Friends, I'm just not into you, lifestyle, Love, Red flags, Relationships, Sex, time to go

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The good the bad the ugly, when your in a relationship they are bound to happen days when you really like the person and days that you don’t. But when the bad days keep happening how do you know when it’s just a phase you to are going through or is it a sign that you to are really not working out for each other? No one is perfect and the perfect relationship doesn’t exist, many times it could just be a phase you two are going through. Many times the love is simple gone.

One major sign that a relationship is heading to the dogs is when there is not contact or interest in each other. No I’m not talking about, them not asking how your day was when you were clearly mad. I’m talking about you guys hardly ever talk anymore there aren’t good mornings you two don’t go to bed together anymore and when you do there is no type of affection. Sometimes it’s just matter of time, maybe you just need to spice up your love life maybe with a little lingerie or take some interest in his interest., But if there isn’t any type of interest, even in fixing the relationship then you better have a talk to see who’s really interested in keeping this relationship afloat.

A pretty obvious indication that this relationship isn’t going anywhere is if there is not talk of it going anywhere. If you keep bringing up a marriage,children, or even moving in together and your getting the bare minimal response then it isn’t going to end up going anywhere. If the person that you’re with as any thoughts about going to the next level, or even going the distance than you probably wont. Save yourself the heartache and stress and end it. If they don’t talk about anything in the future or they do and none of their plans involve you then you’re not in them.

The fighting has gotten worse and I mean bad to the point of name calling or even going out of your way to hurt them then you need to end it. Especially if you two argue over little things like the little things pisses you off the point of no return then time to go. A little arguing in a relationship if fine, healthy even, but if you two are at each other’s constantly then you to aren’t meant to be together and it isn’t a rough patch. Arguments are anger and it could get to be a dangerous thing it can drain you physically and emotionally. It can also spark flames and turn very violent very fast, spare yourself the heartache and pain. Just leave.

The last straw, No more sex, sex no matter how you slice it is a big part in any relationship. It’s showing two as one body one person, connecting in ways that is secret to just you too. When the sex is gone the relationship is soon to end you keep alot more secrets between on any other. And when there are secrets it means that there are also lies. Also means the trust in the relationship is gone and no trust means that there is not love not trust no relationship. and besides who wants to be around someone that has to play a double life with.

All in all,it’s pretty obvious when the relationship is over. That laugh isn’t cute anymore and that way that he
 tossels his hair is no longer adorable.Also when everything that he does even the site of him entering the same room as you irrates you its time to go. No every moment isn’t perfect, it’s not suppose to be but when it gets to the point when you’re unhappy with the person all the time then it’s time to go. Life is way to short to spend it in an unhappy relationship and all because you want it to work doesn’t mean that it will. Time to open those pretty little eyes and take off those rose colored glasses, It’s time to go.
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Strictly Dickly

06 Saturday Aug 2011

Posted by KimberlyLove in Friends with benefits, Love, no strings attached, One night stand, Relationships, Sex

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It seems that the new trend in hollyweird is to have sex with your guy friend, well at least it is according to the latest movie releases. Seems now that trend has hit mainstream and everyone is well just hooking up. Even though sex is just a part of life and yes I have had my share in Friends with Benefits relationships, it is not as glamorous as it seems. So before you pull those Vicky Secrets down one more inch or kiss your best guy friend one more time think about this, are you really ready to add that to your sex resume?

It is rare especially in today’s sex driven world to find someone of the opposite sex that actually just wants to hang out for the sake of just hanging out. People are known for reading into things that are just not there, you invite someone over your house for a movie at night sex is suppose to take place. Or if you’re seen with a guy that is not gay more than twice then you’re assumed to be moving your way in to a relationship. Sometimes you are just hanging out and if that’s the case why are you looked down upon? You’ll hear it all the time, “you should talk to him/her you two are always together and get along well” Why can’t two people just like hanging out? Is it really taboo for two people of the opposite sex to be together 24/7 and no sexual tension is in the air? It should not be, all because you get along with some one doesn’t mean that you have to be with them let alone have sex. Sex, is just what it is sex, it brings people together or it can bring people apart. Now it’s alright to have a sexual partner that you just have sex with, but you’re heading in to dangerous territory with someone that you already have a close connection with. It could bring up unwanted emotions and one of the parties end up getting hurt in the end, or the relationship fizzes out and you’re end up wondering why you too don’t have as much fun together as you used to. Sex adds physical aspect and to some it is a relationship there’s no such thing as no strings attached, someone is bound to get attached to someone. One of the parties may not show it but you’ll see that the relationship you have begins to show more along the lines as boyfriend and girlfriends rather just friends. It’s a serious thing that isn’t taken lightly. If you are going to take the plunge (yes it’s a plunge) in to a sexual relationship make sure the terms are set and agreed upon, and please don’t discuss this whilst you’re already in the bed room talk about it when you feel the sexual tension and then tell them that you want a strictly sexual relationship. See if the person really agrees and they feel the same way, not just because you guys just happen to be horny at the same moment,once you have sex 9 times out of ten you can’t go back to just having a normal relationship. Once it’s set then you can act upon a decision just be happy with the one you’ve made. God forbid the sex is bad or they want something more or things get awkward, like I said you’ve taken the next step and you can’t go back to being just friends with out it being awkward. So I’ll ask are you ready to take the plunge?
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Inspirational Songs of the Day

03 Wednesday Aug 2011

Posted by KimberlyLove in Faith, Friends, Hope, Insecure, Inspirational, Love, Skyscraper

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Many people may hurt you in your life an make you feel horrible about yourself but what really matters is how you feel about you. If something is bothering you or hurts you it’s OK to say something or tell someone about it never suppress it or treat as if it’s not important. Feel your emotions and let them out, every situation happens for a reason.
Remember it’s not about how people treat you it’s about how you react to the situation,if you present your self in a positive manner than you will be treated as if you have self respect but if you don’t you can’t expect people to treat you in a respectable manner. Love yourself and don’t let people’s actions keep you from being happy, if someone is making you feel bad about who you are as a person or how you look that’s a person you don’t need in your life. It’s OK to take a break from dating if you just ended it one, it’s OK to leave your family and friends if they aren’t a positive influence on your life. Whatever it takes for you to be happy, then that’s what you need to do anyone who is opposed to your happiness doesn’t belong in your life. Keep your faith and your head held high and the right people will come in to your life all others will leave. You’re a strong beautiful person and you deserve to be happy and respected. Good Luck I’m rooting for you.

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Dater’s Remorse

29 Friday Jul 2011

Posted by KimberlyLove in Dumped, Hope, I'm just not into you, Love, Relationships

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Funny little thing about relationships, when you’re in one you wish that you’re single and when you’re single you wish you were in one. What about that moment in between when you’re dating? When you’re in that moment and you wish that you were single all over again? That maybe if you hadn’t taken that next step in trying to see if something was there, you’d still be at home happily watching your favorite movie on Netflix?   I call that moment dater’s remorse, that moment when you think that you like someone but as soon as something goes wrong you feel as if you possibly just made a mistake, or when you finally come out of the fantasy of someone actually wants you, you may realize you’re not that interested. Yes, that is dater’s remorse when you want to go back to being just friends but there is no way that you can go back to being just friends especially since both parties expressed their feelings for each other. So what do you do now? Do you just leave the person or do you put on a smiling face and tough it out and maybe just maybe you can fall back in to like.
The most common thing to do is just avoid the person all together, to slowly back down say you’re busy, ignore the conversation and hope that they get the hint. Some get it right away, others not so much, they already have the marriage and honeymoon planned and they aren’t letting you go that easy.  Honesty is always the best policy, you can’t always avoid the situation forever and still remain friends, if you don’t then cut them off, but if you want to salvage any chance of a friend you have to face it head on and tell the person. I’m just not that in to you.  

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My Shoe Lust: Jessica Simpson

27 Wednesday Jul 2011

Posted by KimberlyLove in Fierce, heels, Jessica Simpson, Love, Pumps, Shoes, Shoes Lust, WishList

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As you (should) know I love shoes, especially heels. I could wear a pair of heels for days feet and knee problems and all no ones going to tell me I can’t wear heels and trust I rarely settle for anything below 3″. So when I came across Jessica Simpson’s shoe line you know I was floored. Yes, I’ve known she’s had a shoe line for a while I just never paid any mind to it, but when I saw a girl on Chictopia with a pair of shoes I had to have and I found out they were Jessica’s. You know I had to check out what she had. Dozen’s upon dozen’s of shoes I was speechless opening new tabs of every shoes that caught my eye thinking of the outfits I could wear them with. I was in shoes heaven my heart was racing and my palms sweating, I knew I hadn’t fed my addiction in a while but damn, right about now if a guy wanted to purpose to me I’d prefer a pair of Louboutins to a engagement ring seriously I would! n_n

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Don’t look at me I’m Perfect

21 Thursday Jul 2011

Posted by KimberlyLove in Girl, Love, Perfect, Poem

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Don’t look at me I’m a real girl
I’m not perfect and I like to mix and match
My Body not perfect and my hair is a mess
But I’m not going to rant about how perfect I am

Do you get it? 😉

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Everybody Plays the Fool

20 Wednesday Jul 2011

Posted by KimberlyLove in Fool, Lies, Love, Played, Relationships, Shady, Th Game

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It finally happened that moment when you find that guy that you think is not like any of the others. The one that will change you perspective on men in all. He’s sweet,  gental and doesn’t pressure you for sex at all, he even brought you over to meet some of his friends everything is going great until you drop the ‘R’ word. That’s right you meantion relationships and all of a sudden things changed or he just ignored it even gave you the “not right now” excuse. If you’re dealing with this chances are you’re being played.

It’s pretty simple to easy to tell when and if you’re being played for instance, if your only get calls from them after dark, then you’re probably just a booty call. Which is the obvious sign, she this is were people get a little confused about were they stand, It’s when the person starts to call during the day time hours and maybe even talking to you about non sexual things actually, dare I say, trying to get to know you. That’s when the it get a little murky. People tend to believe that since they are talking about more than just the sexual aspect of a relationship than a real relationship will form. That is not always true, the relationship will rarely change if you start off a sexual relationship and you cut out the sex then there will be no relationship. Simply put if you want a real relationship it’s not based on sex, yes sex is important but it’s not the foundation of any relationship. They will string you along with promises of a relationship but in the end they will leave you with nothing but your hopes shattered and a bitter reminder of what once was.

Along with the late night calls, you will rarely have control of when you see them, for example if you try to make plans with them you will notice that they will always find some way of getting out of it or some maybe just stand you up. You always have to meet with them on their terms and rarely is it with any concern for what your plans are. What they are doing is keeping you under wraps they don’t want to be seen with you or they could have someone else on the side. Either way it’s not a good look, now I know that some people have busy schedules and are limited one time but if the only time he sees you is when you’re behind closed doors then chances are your not going to move from your position, and no if they took you to a fast food restaurant or even introduced you to his friends/roommates that doesn’t count as spending time out side in public together. Also even if he does invite out in public, think about the context he invited you under. Did he know that the chances of you coming were slim? Such as it was to late?, Or if he was already there?, If you couldn’t get dressed, etc. Think about how often that he has really asked you out.

Anyways you know all the signs the missing phone calls, staying in behind doors in the bed, rarely get to see him, etc. Either way these are just a few things that are red flags of you being played, they may not link to you but if your not moving forward in a relationship and it’s been months then chances are you never will. Even if he says just wait a while you may wait a while, but if it’s been months than you’re still waiting then you won’t be in a relationship. Let’s not be stupid here folks “game” is not hard to spot game, if he is being shady in anyway call him on it. Obviously not if you’re mad, that’ll cause friction then you’ll end up losing everything. Just calming ask him were the relationship is going? If he tells you to wait, and it’s been months and the only place you’re advancing is the bed room or no where at all then you need to leave. Unless that’s what you want , but if you want a real relationship waiting around for him to make a move will only leave you in pain and heart ache. Don’t be dumb read the signs and if he’s playing you get up and leave don’t look back and don’t make any excuses.

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What’s Going on Here?

19 Tuesday Jul 2011

Posted by KimberlyLove in Love, Music, Rebellion

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Music today is all about what is marketable it, has nothing to do with any talent. Music used to be about a struggle, about real relationships, truly happy moments and truly sad moments. When you listen to a song you’re suppose to feel what the artist was feeling when they were writing it, and if the song doesn’t make you feel any type of emotions then it’s not real music. Music has become a trending topic, singers no longer write there music they give song writers a list of topics to write about and then decide on what they want to sing. Then have the nerve to say that they’re a musician, or a songstress, you’re not. You’re nothing but a pretty face, with a decent voice hell with all these technical advances now you could just be a pretty face with no talent. In order to be truly “successful” in the music industry it’s not hard, here’s a simple formula. Attractive + friendly quirky attitude x sex appeal + some type of marketable trait = SUCCESSFUL! Seriously unless you’re an actor you don’t need any talent hell if you’re famous enough you can get a  part in a movie with out even auditioning. All in all fame is just another word for being marketable now days, yes there are exceptions to the rule,but they are limited in quality. Artist, dreamers and thinkers are being lost in the world, we are a fleeting breed and we need to rise. Challenge the industry not to sell us sex but to sell us music, and watch the change. Produce movies that make us think and not just laugh, encourage creativity and heighten our minds as one. Breed thinkers and doers in stead of sexy vixens of the night..

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Love after a One Night Stand

12 Tuesday Jul 2011

Posted by KimberlyLove in Love, msrobynlove21, Relationships, Sex

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Typically on a first date you go out to go get coffee, or a quick lunch and see how you guy genuinely connect with the person, but what if the date leads to the bed room? Does it mean that the relationship is destined for failure? You never know. For most people, sex on a first date a is definite no, they believe that there is no way you can have sex and then have a real relationship after. The relationship turns purely sexual after that first act, and once you already get a taste of the milk there’s no need to buy the cow. But are you really willing to pay the cost? Once you have sex with a person do you don’t really want to see what else they have to offer? You could either you can leave or if you’re really interested in the person ( and the sex was that good) you can actually try to make the relationship work.

People often believe the “time” rule, you have to go on a certain amount of dates or spend a certain amount of time with a person in order to have sex and still have a successful relationship. Over that period of time, you’re suppose to have met the person and gotten a real relationship going. What if you dated the person for the required amount of time and after the sex the relationship died down or they still left? Isn’t it just as easy to leave on the first date as it is the 5th? Hopeless romantics always believe that love conquers all, but what they don’t realize is that you can put your all in to a relationship but love doesn’t doesn’t always happen. Some people believe if you wait that the time is going to show you what the person is really after. What they don’t realize is some people are great actors, we all wear “mask” to get what we want.

Let’s say you do have sex on the first date, but a friendship builds. You’re having a great time together and even may have met some of their friends, but what does that mean? Do they want a relationship or are you just a friend? And if you actually get a relationship does that mean that you’re going to have a real relationship or only one that happens in the bed room?  Chances are the relationship won’t happen or it will be very difficult to take the relationship out of the bedroom. You’ve already set a standard of the relationship if you already given it up for free why know does the person have to pay now? It’s like getting free ice cream, if you already get it for free once why pay now?

If you’re lucky you can find one person that doesn’t care, that are laid back enough that they’ll take the free ice cream and are willing to pay. Some people, believe it or not will tell you no for various reasons most times because they don’t know you or they do want something real and sex could and does complicate things.  Some are live and let live and if you’re going to have sex that early don’t hold your breath on a relationship. All in all life is a lesson, you can have sex on the first date and you may actually have real relationship after, congrats. If it doesn’t turn in to a real thing then at least you have a great story to tell your friends and met a new person to have fun with. Rather than contemplate whether you’re a slut or not why not just think that you had one more night of being young and careless. Just stay protected and laugh about it and keep moving,its never the end of the world. It all depends on how you react. Have fun loves…..
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25 Monday Apr 2011

Posted by KimberlyLove in beauty, Diva, Edgy, Fashion, Fierce, Girl, hair, Jessie Jay, Love, Makeup, msrobynlove21, Music, PrettyLittleLookBook, PriceTag

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Apparently this song is everywhere but I just heard it yesturday and I love it! It’s by Jessie J, Pricetag you heard of it? I absolutely love this song! It’s all about doing things for love not the money which should be the reason you’re doing things in the first place because of love not money. And BTW her style is just awesome I’m defiantly going to look up more of her songs bu for now this will have to be my Jessie J fix. Check the video below!

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Step 4: Look inward

11 Monday Apr 2011

Posted by KimberlyLove in beauty, Hope, Journey, Love, Love you not your body, Peace, PrettyLittleLookBook, Relapse, Self esteem, Sex, Weight

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            When was the last time you really sat down and looked at your self. No, I’m not talking about this morning when you got dressed. I’m talking about when you sat down and asked yourself “How am I REALLY  feeling today?” When was the last time you had a really good cry? The last time you just let your emotions flow out, when you didn’t try to be that person who has it all together and you let yourself see you for who you really are? Sometimes you need to just let it out, it’s OK to let the scared little child show and cry for an hour or too maybe curl up with a pillow and a box of tissues and let the tears flow. It’s OK to come from behind that mask and be you. Sit down, meditate and think about a few things that you’ve done recently and why you actually did it. Did you really need to have that extra piece of cake? Did you really want to have sex with that guy? Did you need to drink that? Sniff that? Smoke it? These things may seem insignificant at first, but when you really look at why you do somethings it may open up a new door or window into your soul. I remember something like this happened to me the other day. I had relations with a guy now I had not had sex in a long time and I was feeling really good about myself but after I had relations I honestly felt bad. I felt dirty, less than like I had disappointed myself my family and my whole cause. As I sat there wrapped in nothing but my sheets staring in to the Television screen , I’m not going to lie I brushed it off like “Oh OK, at least I know now” and I thought well my self esteem had gotten so high that it couldn’t have dropped that quickly from that. But I realized I was falling back in to that pattern of trying to look like people I wasn’t saying negative things about myself and shutting myself in. I then realized how serious it was, I’m not back on track but this is why I’m telling you to really look at your actions and see if there is some underline reason why you do what you’re doing. Try to avoid anything you do that my trigger these things and let out some of that aggression you have in a positive way you can write listen to music dance paint or even take up boxing as long as your not hurting your self or others(including your wallet) I applaud you and please don’t have a relapse like I did. Like I said before I’m in this with you guys too we’re on the same path to loving ourselves and our bodies NEVER give up hope.WE CAN DO THIS! 🙂
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Step 3: Taking a you day

09 Saturday Apr 2011

Posted by KimberlyLove in beauty, Girl, Love, Love you not your body, Mask, Meditation, Mud, Peace, Smiles, Spa, Stress, You

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Everyone needs one, a day to themselves to relive the stress and negativity around them. It’s OK to shut the door turn on a Lifetime movie and go to town on your reviving yourself. Take a mental health day to do what ever it is you enjoy. It’s OK to bask in the awesomeness that is you! Today is my day, I went down to my local CVS and bought a few things to make my me day a little more about me 🙂 I bought a facial mask and a new scrub I’m also deep conditioning my hair. While doing that I’ll be watching Lifetime maybe do some of my class work and meditation so I can be refreshed and alive for the rest of the week! Come on ladies it’s a chill day relax with me.!
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Step 2: Switch it Up

01 Friday Apr 2011

Posted by KimberlyLove in beauty, Love, Love you not your body, Movement, Peace, SelfEsteem

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Have you ever called yourself stupid? Even if it was a joke? For example it took you longer to realize something and when you finally got it you said ” O.M.G. I’m so slow” or “O.M.G. I’m so stupid?”. What if you’re in class? Say Math and you get a failing grade but you casually brush it off saying something like “I knew I was no good at math.”or “Whatever I’m never going to get this!”
 Even though you’re probably not serious and you think that it doesn’t really have an effect on you. It does. It feels your mind with negative thoughts about yourself. The worse part is if you say it enough, you actually start believing it. You may be joking but it really hurts, you may not feel it now but you will. Those moments when you’re really upset, those thoughts find away to creep back and repeat themselves making you feel like you are worthless. When you’re not you smart and beautiful, you need to remind yourself of it everyday.  For example, if you fail a test, don’t say “I suck at this” or “I’m so stupid, I’m never going to get this” SWITCH IT UP! Say I failed admit it to yourself but then instead of “I’m stupid” or “I’ll never get it” say Math (or any subject) comes hard to me but I know I can do this. Then get extra help ask the professor for help or they’re business hours they are there to help you. And if they’re busy you can find some one don’t give up! If you don’t remember something or don’t get a joke or messed up don’t say your dumb or stupid remember the saying if you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say anything at all? Well that applies to you to! Sometimes a simple oh will be O.K. you don’t have to react to everything. Just brush it off with an Oh Well and laugh at it! Everyone has a slow moment we’re only human accept learn it love it and have fun with life. It’s to short to waste it with negative sayings about yourself. So smile that beautiful smile  you’re only human!
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What huh?

23 Wednesday Mar 2011

Posted by KimberlyLove in beauty, Diva, Edgy, FAQ, Fashion, Girl, Grey, Journey, Love, Makeup, Meditation, Peace, PrettyLittleLookBook, Self esteem, SelfEsteem, Short haired mafia, Skirt

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I haven’t worn this skirt for months it’s been sitting in the back of my wardrobe. But today in honor of my “revolution” I decided what the hell why not show off my silhouette? Then I remembered why I hadn’t worn it in a while it rides up something fierce! But I still love the skirt and it really made me appreciate my figure it’s amazing I don’t even understand why I was doing what I did to my body.Why don’t you guys try showing off your figure not in clingy fabrics or to small clothes, but a nice fitted jacket or a cute pencil skirt? You’d be surprise on how you may surprise yourself!

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