I’m always on the hunt for new music, when you get new music it’s like you’ve opened up another door to a place you’ve never been before.
I remember in middle school, my principal would always tell us to make the day count because it’ll never happen again. I was never quite sure what that meant. Continue reading
These are some photos that I took a while ago on a failed OOTD post. I actually have a lot of those, the pictures rarely turn out the way I want them too. I think it’s in part to the fact that I don’t know how I want them to look. Today I was looking through some of my old photos and saw these and I thought to myself, why the hell not.
Happy Summer Everyone!
Sometimes its just nice to get away from all the hussle from the city and all the drama and just go for a nice quite walk on a trail. Not going anywhere fast, slowing down and listening to the wind blow. Its times like this when you sit back and look at your life you realize, things aren’t so bad.
Yesterday I took a trip downtown , just because I haven’t been down there in forever. I just wanted to see what’s new or if anything was going on. As usual, there was nothing happening. The same old shops with the same old people doing the same old things. Although I did see this interesting building, with all these amazing quotes. If only I knew what was inside…
and here’s a potted plant.
I love sunrises and sun sets. The way that the sky changes colors and blends all the colors together breathes the breathe of change. Most importantly they show that there’s always a beautiful start and end to life. All because something bad happened doesn’t mean it’ll stay that way. You can always make a fresh start tomorrow.
There’s nothing worse than seeing a girl with an amazing outfit and when you get down to her shoes its an awful match. I won’t bore you with a long story but I have been a avid shoe lover since I was four so I know a few tricks of the trade. I will note these are guidelines, not rules, play with your look and love it. These are guidelines I follow when picking out the shoes for my outfits.
1. The shorter the pant length the skinnier the heel. I love how long it makes my legs look and it slims them down.
2. When it comes to a full length Jean anything goes.
3. Never wear a short bulky wedge. Although they are comfortable, they make the shoe look clunky. If you must wear a wedge opt for something higher you’ll have the comfort of a flat but the look of a stiletto.
4. Strappy suede platform sandals, no. I just think the ruin any outfit. And I mean ANY I have yet to see a girl that can pull it off.
5. Leather is always better.
6. Make sure you can walk in heels before you actually, walk in heels. I’ve been that girl, it’s not fun. It’s fine to practice in your house or walk around your block with them on to break them in ( If you have a treadmill you can also use that) just so you won’t have to do the hurt feet walk.
7. Nude shoes are always chic.
8. If you’re going to be walking around in heels keep the heel 4 inches or below so your feet won’t hurt to bad. 5 inches and above should be reserved for events where you’ll be sitting.
9. You chose to wear the shoes you chose to endure the pain. I get heels are uncomfortable, but don’t take your shoes off. Its just nasty, unless you have roll up shoes in your bag. I’m sorry please keep them on till you get to your car, you don’t know what happened on that floor. Better yet insoles do wonders and remember keep the heel lower. You’ll be cute and comfortable, not cute and in pain.
10. Clean your shoes duh.
11. Avoid pure white shoes at a club or party. Save them for events wear you won’t be on your toes so they won’t get scratched or dirty.
12. A cute pair of sneakers are an easy must have, choose one for many outfits or vice versa.
13. Ankle strapped heels for those sun dress, Flirty skirt days. They are just oh so sexy.
14. Metallic and satin shoes are never a bad choice.
It never fails to hear criticism from everyday people. Take for example the shopping trip to the mall I had just the other day. It was gorgeous out so I put a little more effort into my outfit and put on a striking lip color, blue. I was looking for a new look that felt like me, and fell head over heels for the color. As I glanced in the mirror, I loved it even more and headed out to the mall. I felt so confident until I felt eyes of two ladies burning into my skull. Of course it had to be the lipstick and I dismissed it until I heard one of the women whisper to her friend “why would she come out the house looking like that? ” followed by some quiet snickering. I rushed to the dressing room to examine myself, only to find nothing was wrong.
“It must be the lipstick ” I thought, realizing that the only colors you see on people’s lips are either pink, red, or purple. I was different and that didn’t sit well with them. As I put a Kleenex to my lips to wipe off the beauty faux pas, I paused. Why should I change who I am or what I like for people I don’t even know & probably won’t ever see again? I took me 22 years to be comfortable in my skin and be confident enough to wear whatever I wanted. Why stop now just because it’s not someone else’s cup of tea? Everyone isn’t going to like you, or what you do. As long as your happy and proud of yourself everyone else can go suck it.
Reminding myself of that I wiped off the lipstick and applied a fresh coat of the same blue shade adding a shimmery glossary to make it stand out even more and walked out the dressing room head held high. As I continued shopping I said a polite hello and smile to the two ladies that laughed at me earlier. As I continued shopping through the mall I felt the eyes of hundreds of strangers fall upon me, this time however, I didn’t flinch or hide my lips in shame. I proudly smiled and wore my blue lipstick with pride. Finally happy with myself and needing no one else’s approval on my appearance I gained more confidence and self respect. Don’t mind what others say or do. No matter what you do someone is going to hate it. Everyone is different, everyone has different opinions of what’s beautiful and what they deem acceptable. So they’re going to talk, people love to talk! So you might as well give them a hell of a story.
As the world changes and women evolve I’ve noticed the rise of the feminist. These aren’t the same feminist that fought for equal rights and for women to have a choice in whether to stay at home or work. No, the feminist of today is fighting for sexual liberation, but is it doing more harm than good?
I look at celebrities like Rihanna & Beyonce, some huge female names in the industry and wonder what are they really promoting? Beyonce, once known for her work in destiny’s child and her solo career writing hit songs like ‘Put ring on it’ and ‘Who run the world (girls)’ both songs that are fairly clean, aren’t heavily sexual. Each both hits. She was the last singer I considered that actually had class and didn’t need sex to sell out an arena. Yet her latest song ‘Partition’ is all about sex, even ‘Drunk in Love’ is heavy on the party lifestyle and having sex. Why? I get that sex sells, but she was selling records before, why fix what isn’t broke? For some reason she went off track, not implying that she a saint before, but this Beyonce is all sex no brains. The only issue I really have with her is the fact that she claims to be a “feminist” demanding we respect women but disrespects herself by shedding her clothes.
Rihanna is not any better. The good girl gone bad has gotten even worse. Have you seen her latest shoot? She’s literally naked. Although she’s never claimed to be a feminist or a role model, she just adds to the thought so many women have in their minds now “show some skin, make millions ” is that our future?
We have taken ‘think like a man’ completely out of context and started behaving like horny school boys. No longer do we require a date, or a relationship to grant access to our bodies, we proudly display them without a care letting anyone in yet we demand respect. Why care about something you didn’t have to work for? Something you got just for showing up? No one cares about the community swimming pool anyone can just jump in. We act like this and claim its sexual liberation, but is it really? Do you feel liberated sleeping with a guy who you only know by his nickname? The guy who told all his friends that he slept with you in a weeks time? Sexual liberation isn’t the golden ticket to behave like a whore. Its means you’re free to feel sexy and be sexy in whatever you wear. No one is asking you to be a nun and dress in robes, but if you want people to respect you and take you seriously as a woman you can’t go out the house looking like a piece of meat that you give to the dog.
Pull your dress down if you want people to notice you, not your body. Don’t get drunk in the club or make a twerk video, you’re setting us back. It’s nobody else’s job but ours to improve how women are treated and represented. If we continue promoting these overly sexual acts we just become community swimming pools, dirty and poorly kept. Close your legs ladies, and open your minds. You’re much more than just a pretty face. Take away all the make up and the designer bags and the skin tight clothes, see what you have to offer, its a lot. You can have lots of sex, but make sure its with a guy who actually cares about you. Put your mind not your body out there for the world to see and I guarantee you better people will come into your life. Sexy is the woman who has beauty and brains not the girl who is half naked in the corner. Take care of yourself ladies.
When I was in 8th grade I had an eating disorder. I would only eat a brownie at lunch and do tae bo tapes until I collapsed from exhaustion. I was trying to be as skinny as possible, no goal weight, no ideal size, just skinny. Why? Because everyone around me thought I was fat, but I was really only a size 5. I didn’t read fashion magazines at that age and I wasn’t obsessed with Hollywood and having an image, I just wanted to lose weight because every 5 seconds someone I knew would poke me in the stomach and say “got a little pudge there. ” or simply tell me I was fat.
There wasn’t a model pressuring me to lose weight, it was people in my life. That’s why I don’t get the whole Photoshop is killing girls self esteem thing. Granted I know there are girls who idolize celebrities and models and want to look like them. And I’m not going to say that it’s not a good place to start but but if you ban it people are just going to find other things to try to replicate. Like the people at school When I was in high-school there was a girl, I don’t know her name, but she was gorgeous. I would literally stare at her walking down the hallway and think to myself “why can’t I just be her? ” I still remember what she wore the first time I saw her, a long deep green trench, black knee high boots and a fierce blonde pixie cut. Among other girls I would try to emulate she was the main one that ate at me. I would try and try with my clothes and still just never quite got it. I started to think I was ugly and it weighed down on me.
So you see, ending Photoshop won’t help at all with a girls self esteem because there are plenty of prettier girls in the world that they’ll want to look like. Whether they see them on Instagram, Tumblr on Facebook, they’ll look at her and say “why don’t I look like that?” What we need to do is tell these girls that they’re beautiful, and treat them that way so they know they are. Sometimes its a phase, I didn’t become happy with my body until I earlier this year. And I still wish I could pick a different body based on how I want to look for that day, or the outfit I’m wearing. But I also know that someone is always going to be prettier than me, dress better or even have a better life in general and that’s ok. Being happy with who you are is a destination each person has to come to by themselves. I feel like self esteem comes with age. One day you’ll wake up and you realize you’re not so bad, and then your life will begin.
I’m pretty sure there isn’t anyone that loves being a girl more than me. The pampering, the girly time etc. hands down 10x better than being a guy (ok we have that one awful week but other than that it’s pretty fun). But even the girliest girl doesn’t shave all the time, sometimes you don’t have time, or you’re wearing jeans that day and don’t plan on getting freaky so who cares? Apparently veet does. Although I doubt that any guy is going to wake up freaked out cause you’re prickly, Or you won’t get a cab or even your pedicurist care(c’mon they touch feet for a living) I doubt it’s as serious as Veet says it is. But apparently the ultra feminist nazi’s are in a uproar about it. Calling the video’s offensive, homophobic (because the cab driver wouldn’t pick up the man in the dress), and completely un-funny. From this feminist I say take a chill pill and stop burning your bra, completely over reacting. It’s advertisement for a shaving company, do you really think they’re going to promote stubble? Granted the jokes weren’t funny, but that’s because the jokes just weren’t funny. Although they whole hailing in the cab thing isn’t the best I do think that the manicurist and the boyfriend one are completely fine.
Since the videos aired and the public outcry the marketing team for Veet have taken the videos off their YouTube Page and posted this message on their FB page.
Hi…this is the Veet marketing team in the US. We just wanted to let everyone know, we get it – we’re women too. This idea came from women who told us that at the first hint of stubble, they felt like “dudes.” It was really simple and funny, we thought. To be honest, the 3 of us could really relate to these real-life moments and they made us laugh. Not everyone appreciated our sense of humor. We know that women define femininity in different ways. Veet helps those who choose to stay smooth. Our intention was never, ever, to offend anyone, so we decided to rethink our campaign and remove those clips. Thank you for letting us know how you feel.
I would just like Veet to know this hairy girl that rarely shaves her legs didn’t find the commercials offensive, I got your joke. You’re still cool in my book. Check the videos out below and tell me what you think.
Brace yourselves people there’s a new culture on the rise.
I know you haven’t been blind to the amount of attention that “sex” has been getting in the media nowadays. It’s hard to miss. From our beloved Beyonce shedding clothes and riding it like a surfboardt to Rihanna, being well Rihanna, it’s clear from these celebrities that Sex is in high demand. People want it now and people want it fast. That’s nothing new, celebrities being a little “ratchet”(is that what the kids are calling it nowadays?) showing more and more skin to attract the masses. What is new however is the promotion of promiscuity in the media. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been reading my facebook newsfeed and seen an article about “single women not choosing to get married”. While I’m not an exactly for or against marriage, these women imparticular aren’t even talking about having a long term boyfriend. They’re talking about heading to a bar and hooking up with the first guy, or any guy they see,every night and that’s not necessarily a good thing. Continue reading
Its hard to tell where any relationship is going now days. Even though things seem fine, you some times find yourself asking “is this as good as we’re going to get or is there more? ” I know I think about it constantly but there is a way to know.
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When you’re younger, like 21-24 you’re always told you have plenty of time to find the one. It doesn’t matter what type of feelings you have for them it’s always “you have time you don’t need to settle down, get your life together than find what you want.” While that’s all fine and good, what if you find someone you want to spend the rest of your life with? What if they support you and allow you to do your whole career thing? Continue reading
Yesterday while making my biweekly fast food run (yes I know I have a problem) I heard something interesting on the radio that made my ears perk. In a recent interview Simon Cowell was quoted saying that “Lady Gaga isn’t selling so many records because the american people are plan sick of her.”
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The rain hit my window like a long lost friend looking to gain entry. It softly woke me up for another day, looked out my window and saw another cold grey. I hate when the weather is like this, it’s stay in the house in my sweats weather. There’s nothing inviting or warm about it. It’s like a fish cold and slimy, nobody wants that. When I finally unraveled myself from my cocoon of covers ( I sleep with two blankets one for coverage the other for warmth) and got my ass out of bed. Continue reading
Sometimes in I think I’m the most antisocial person in the world. I barely keep in touch with any of my old friends from highschool, and I hardly socialize enough with new people to become anymore than a acquaintance. I was literally to frustrated with myself so I did what any self-respecting person would do, I turned to google. I simply googled how to be social, pathetic I know but hey what are you gonna do? I know how to talk to people but, I just don’t know how to approach people or be approachable. Anyway so I googled it and came across an article on Ehow. It gave me a little hope and so far it’s been working. I won’t tell you everything in the article because some of it isn’t really for us socially handicapped but here’s my version of “How to be a social butterfly from a Antisocial caterpillar” Continue reading
All my life I’ve been told college is the key to success, that you can’t get anywhere in life without a degree especially in this economy. What I’ve seen is something completely different. College is a great way to figure out what you want to do and possibly a great way to find the people that you need to make that dream a reality. That is if you’re in the right time and the right place to get those things. Most people I find (atleast the ones I know) don’t know what they want to do, they go to school because that’s just the next step. When in reality that shouldn’t, isn’t the next thing that you should be doing you should be figuring out what you want to do in life. That’s what people think high school is for, however when you’re actually in high school all you hear are people telling you to go into nursing or do something that involves computers because”that’s where the money’s at.” While those are great career choices everyone is not into long hours helping sick people or into technology. Why are we hardwiring kids to get into a career that they could potentially hate? And probably having them living paycheck to paycheck like most americans? Also how long do you think those nursing jobs will last? I went around and asked the working class and some college students, “Why did you choose this career/course?” Very few of them actually said it’s because it was something they loved, most said something relating to “I’m guaranteed a job, I fell in to it, or I get paid well.” While I do believe that everyone should attend college it shouldn’t be just so you can make money, that’s what’s being taught in school “It’s all about money.” When in reality you should be learning to achieve your dream not just make ends meet.